Trust is such a beautiful thing. Strong as an iron bridge but delicate as a soap bubble.
When we are hurt, our ability to trust is challenged. If we are hurt enough, we stop even trusting ourselves. And that is a pretty miserable place to be.
Fortunately, your inner voice will never leave you. But you have to keep trusting it. Even if it seems to lead you astray sometimes. Even if it constantly seems to lead you astray.
“That makes no sense.”, you say. “It was my inner voice that got me into the situation to begin with!” And I hear you. But you have to realize that we are here to experience a multitude of things. That means good things and bad things. You cannot avoid bad things. They will find you even if you hide. And sometimes your inner voice leads you right smack dab into the thick of some heavy stuff. Which it does on purpose.
Let’s say you really want to do something and think it is the right thing to do and it turns out to be a bad idea. And maybe you blame yourself for making a bad decision. But what if you were supposed to make that decision and get yourself in a predicament? If you’re asking “Why???” right now, congratulations. That is exactly what you should be asking yourself when things go unexpectedly belly up.
When things seem to be going the wrong way in your life, ask yourself what you can learn from it. Try to find the hidden meaning, the silver lining, the golden take-away. Because that is what you must do to get yourself out of the mess. Think of it like a challenge. And I’ll give you a hint. Often the answer is that you need to love and respect yourself and others.
Of course this does not apply if you’re ignoring inner warning bells. I’m not talking about that. I’m talking about believing you’re doing the right thing and it backfires. Often, ‘the right thing’ is just that. The right thing to put you in a situation to learn a valuable lesson. So don’t waste the opportunity! Learn the lesson so you can move onward and upward. I promise you will. The universe delivers us into tight spaces. But it also delivers us out of them. Often in strange and totally unpredictable ways.
So don’t give up. Don’t lose hope. Just connect to that inner voice and ask, what do I need to learn from this mistake? How can I love myself enough to overcome this? Answers will come. And when they do, you will realize that you can trust yourself. Absolutely.